“For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body. As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Ephesians 5:22-33 NLT
With seeing both sides of biblical marriage and secular marriage. Marriage is hard let’s get that straight, but if we allow Christ’s unconditional love and God into the picture you get fruit. Marriage doesn’t haft to be horrible, with people saying “old ball in chain” or fighting unproductively and just attacking each other. It can be so much more and that’s what it should be. It should function as Christ and the body. What we should see is unconditional love and submission, becoming one and working together instead of apart. It’s complex and there’s a lot of ways to mess up, but we’re finite creatures and we’re going to fall short from our spouse. But with God he completes us and leaves no gaps.